Heirarchy (not Maslow's)
**If you're Hamish's Mother, don't read any further**
There's a subtle heirarchy (ok, not subtle, I just never noticed before) in tricking. It's interesting how this thing has grown up, organicially, nobody has discussed it or planned it, there's no manual, or agreement. It just happened. I call it:
BH-YP-MC-MB-OVN
Which stands for "Bath House - Your Place - My Couch - My Bed - Over Night". Maybe I'm making up the meaning here - gawd-knows I'm not above doing that - but I honestly think that this hierarchy of where you shag someone says a lot about how they view the encounter.
Bath House: This one is tricky. It could be that they live with their parents, or with their husband or (and I've seen it happen) wife. But that actually proves my point. When someone says let's meet at a bath-house, it means that they won't or can't bring you home. You rank low. as in "not even worth changing the sheets for" But apart from the obvious laundry implications, there's the emotional/psychological ones. this trick is not to be invited into my personal space.
Your place: Increased level of intimacy. could just be a nosy fag, wants to compare furniture. but willing to come over. suggests he's not afraid of being seen. Likely will rever back to bath-house if you suggest the boyfriend could come home early.
My Couch: Mostly means, "ok, you can come in to my personal space, but you're not getting into my bed. (cf, laundry above)" Also likely means they're too lazy to go downtown, or too cheap to pay for a room.
My Bed: ooooo, now you're getting close. This guy invites you into his bed. This is someone either clearly committed to his sluttiness, really wanting to annoy his boyfriend, or maybe hoping you stay. Or in the case of my friend S.H. (you know who you are), so pleased with his fabulous new sheet set, he just HAS to show someone.
OVN: eeeeek. Boyfriend hunter here. Which is fine if you are too. Or he lives in mississauga, and realises that your trip out there was enough of a comittment that you deserve a rest before heading home.
Is this real!!!???? has anyone else noticed?
I'm actually kinda sad that I have. Because now I know this I can't help thinking about it when I trick. I mean it's pretty disconcerting to be engaing in foreplay while thinking "Oh! I'm a couch!? I thought I was a bed, i mean I know i'm not an overnighter, but I thought we'd connected enough to at least be a bed. shit."
